You always have three things. The three things are your answers to these questions:
- What happened?
- How you feel about it?
- What are you’re going to do next?
It’s common to confuse #2 with #3. Some people get stuck on the feelings for the past and never move on.
Feelings are important as that’s how we know who we are. Venting, dwelling or celebrating serve the purpose of being present with how we feel. But after a day, a week, or a month, you have to recognize feelings aren’t actions. Only if a feeling is converted into a decision, even if it’s just the decision to share the feeling with someone, can it impact the future. Even if your situation is ‘life is awesome’, the answer to #3 might be ‘figure out how to keep this going’ or ‘tell my friend who wants me to be happy how happy I am’.
For example, lets pretend I was attacked by a gang of wild terrorist bears:
- What happened: I was attacked by wild terrorist bears.
- How you feel about it: sad, scared and angry. And somewhat dead.
- What you’re going to do next: stop running naked in a suit made of beef hot dogs, which terrorist bears are known to love to eat, at the terrorist bear exhibit at the zoo.
There you go. #3 leads to an action that leads to a new set of three things. That is of course if you’re not dead. If you’re dead you have precisely zero things. Be glad you have at least three more things than dead people do.
And to conclude, here’s my three things:
- What happened: I wrote this post.
- How do you feel: Glad someone is still reading this.
- What are you going to do next: Wait to see if you leave a comment. I’ll give you a suit of hot-dogs if you do.